I recently became intrigued with a program known as Death Over Dinner. No, it’s not a murder mystery party. And it’s not as depressing or morbid as the title may suggest. It’s also not just for older people.
Last week, I facilitated this program with an amazing group of women in their 40s and 50s. Many of them were hesitant and skeptical ahead of time. We discussed deep, important topics. “if you had an hour left, what would you feel was unresolved?” A discussion on what we would say if we had to give our own eulogy. And more. Some of the comments after the program included “that was so worthwhile” “can we do this again?” “this was hard, thought provoking and inspiring.” “I felt exhausted when I got here but energized when I left.”
The long term goals of the program are multi-fold:
My colleague (and traveling Medicare-certified social worker), Allison List, LCSW, and I will be facilitating this program at the Vernon Area Library and the North Suburban YMCA this fall (click here for program dates), and are talking with several other organizations. If you’d like us to facilitate a program at your organization or for your family/friends, please contact me.
Resources to help you start the conversation… and fill out your advance directives:
The Conversation Project
The Five Wishes
State-specific Advance Planning Forms from the American Bar Association